How to live

In my early twenties, my theory of relationships is to find someone who can learn, grow and help each other to become a better human being (and to raise children together). However, as I've grown older, my perspective has shifted. I realised that relationship doesn't need to be my school. I don't need to learn and grow from my partner. The purpose of the relationship is to enjoy each other company ( that is why we are together). I can just really enjoy the company of a man I really love and cherish spending time with.

Something happened yesterday that I wanted to share with you all… I recently volunteered to give a talk about women in STEM for the celebration of International Women’s Day at my daughter’s school. My audience was 16 children, aged from 3 and a half to 5. I needed to speak up to be a role model for my daughter and other young girls out there. My goal was not to get them to learn to code but to be curious about it and maybe even try it themselves. One thing that I love about coding is that it will help us to be creative. I am also teaching my daughter, Devi, coding at home. I know that “creativity” is the skill that she needs for life to navigate this changing world.  During the presentation, I threw a problem to these young kids to solve - Help the mouse get the cheese. I was amazed by the wide range of ideas that they threw at me. One child brought the cheese to the mouse, and I was laughing so hard because I had never thought of that idea!  If you don’t have a background in ...

A few weeks ago, I took Devi to a new park in the neighborhood. As we explored the playground, a big kid, who looked about seven years old, approached Devi and told her she couldn't climb a massive construction. Devi believed the older child and started playing elsewhere. I was left wondering what I should do in this situation. After contemplating, I approached Devi and asked if she truly believed she couldn't climb the construction. I suggested she try and see if it was too difficult. Devi nodded and headed towards the challenge. As I watched, she kept climbing until she reached the top. She proved herself wrong. To my surprise, she went to the big kid and confidently told her what she said wasn't true. It was a heartening moment to watch her prove to herself that she was capable of doing something that she initially believed was impossible. This experience taught me how important it is to encourage Devi's sense of adventure and self-confidence.

In today's fast-paced, achievement-driven world, I found myself asking, "What if I just want to live a simple life?"  Life often bombards us with expectations – owning a home, driving a fancy car, dining at upscale restaurants, striving for fame and success, ensuring your kids excel in school, seeking approval from others, and meeting the impossible standards of perfection as a spouse or parent. But what if we dared to challenge these expectations? - What if I don't own a home? Perhaps, it might offer a unique freedom, a chance to roam, to discover, and to redefine what 'home' truly means. - What if I don't drive a fancy car? Maybe it's the simple journeys, the laughter during a ride, or the songs on the radio that matter more than the make and model of the vehicle. - What if I skip the fancy restaurants? Homemade meals, shared with loved ones, can nourish the soul in ways a five-course meal cannot. - What if I am not famous nor successful. Perhaps it...